Comments on: Vlog #3: Thanksgiving, Coming Out, and Horror Movies

By: Erin P

Erin P — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 23:44:58 +0000

I did shorten it to T-Day to simply have some fun.

Yeah we should pressure the GLBT Alliance to work on implementing November as Trans awareness month, with a special day for coming out, T-Day to be the Friday that follows the 4th Thursday of November ;) Receive extra discounts for shopping in drag, hee hee.

By: Gabrielle

Gabrielle — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 22:19:56 +0000

Sounds like you had a fine Thanksgiving, Erin. :) Good company and good food are a lot to be thankful for in themselves. When you mentioned Chinese for Thanksgiving, I was reminded of the scene in “A Christmas Story” when they went to a Chinese restaurant for their dinner because the dog got a hold of their Turkey. lol Different holiday, the scene played out in my head as I read your comment.

“T-Day” Hmmm – “Trans-Day”? lol Ok, I know it’s just shortened “Thanksgiving”, but I like the idea of “trans-day” anyway. Trans-day is always a good day in our home. :)

By: Erin P

Erin P — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 21:45:38 +0000

What about a goose? Maybe pleasant, quail, or Cornish Game Hens. There was a time when I would traditionally have Chinese for Thanksgiving and Christmas. But that was an anti-Christmas/Thanksgiving phase. Of course when I was in larger metropolitan areas it tended to be La Choy… which is sort of anti-Chinese and anti-taste as well ;p But that was long long ago.

I put the Christmas tree up Wednesday before T-Day. No decorations yet.We had an excellent Turkey, yams, green bean casserole, corn (hope you didn’t forget that, that was the staple), mashed potatoes, gravy, finished with pumpkin, pecan, and chocolate pies for desert.

My coming out was near T-Day 3 years ago, but for different reasons than the holiday. It was what it was. Little more.

But Happy Thanksgiving to everyone. Hope you had a good one.

By: Gabrielle

Gabrielle — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 23:06:27 +0000

Sorry your coming out went “badly”, Lynn. However you did it, at least you followed through with it and the two of you are doing well now. :)

The chicken was amazing! No pie. Weird – that’s so Thanksgiving, and it never even occurred to us to get one. After dinner, I just had some chocolate ice cream, took a break, then hit the treadmill to pay my dues… which I’m about to go and do again.

I hear you with the excited-kids thing. lol This time of year is truly magical to kids. Mrs. H. and I set up our tree yesterday on Thanksgiving. She’s putting the final Christmas decoration touches on the rest of the house as I type this.

By: Lynn Jones

Lynn Jones — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 21:59:31 +0000

How did I come out? Badly I think :) I spilled the beans late one night to Mrs Jones. I went okay and I think both of us took a while to get over the shock. Still, that was 10 years ago (yikes!) and we got over it.

Mmm… chicken dinner. Yummy. Did you have the traditional pie too?

Oh, re: Xmas decorations. In our house, nothing Xmasy goes up until it’s December. Kids + Christmas decorations is a bit like kids + Redbull :)

By: Gabrielle

Gabrielle — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 01:19:27 +0000

That’s an interesting story, Shayne. Thanks for sharing. :) I’m happy it worked out well for the both of you. It’s completely understandable that both of you felt the need to keep such an integral part of your life a secret from each other for so many years. We all grow up fearing rejection for being different. Sad, but so many people (trans and non) never let their life-partner get to know them completely because of these fears. I thank God I did not choose to live out my life that way. It’s so good to be out to my wife and able to explore this aspect of life together rather than limit ourselves to the facade of “normality” – that was so empty compared to now. I’m sure you know the feeling. :)

By: Shayne Naireen

Shayne Naireen — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 01:05:49 +0000

Re: Coming out.

I didn’t pick a holiday to come out to my wife. Actually, she came out to me as being bisexual, so I said to myself “What have I got to lose?” Now, things couldn’t be better. Funny how people can be together for 18+ years and never know. ;)