Just to be clear, my wife is supporting, but that does not make for a perfect marriage by any means. We have our moments just like any married couple – trust me! Her acceptance of my feminine side is very cherished, though, and I am grateful for her presence in my life.

@ Erin K – Thank you, Erin! :) I’m happy to be here, and very happy to have you here as well. Thanks for taking some time to drop in, read, and share in with a thought or two from time to time. I hope you’ll continue to do so.

You are very luck to have a supporting wife on cross-dressing. Well, my is is put off by this,
so I have to hide in the closet to cross-dress.

Love

Ashley

I think I first came to your site when one of my topic bots picked up the story of Tessa.

I liked what I saw when I read that article and some of your other writings – you have been insightful, compassionate and gentle with your suggestions to others. I admire the way that you are reaching out to others in a constructive manner.

Since then, I drop by occasionally and try to contribute a little from a slightly different, but similar, path in life.

Even though I can’t post as frequently as I’d like, there is so much more to share and discuss. I hope you’ll continue to visit and maybe chime in from time to time. :)

I’ll admit that I only ‘discovered’ your wonderful site about six months ago, but took some time to go back and review many of your earlier blog entries. And I can say that I was very pleased when I did.
Being an infrequent, but longtime crossdresser, I often felt confused about why I dressed, and wondered like many, what was ‘wrong’ with me. My dressing was only occasionally ‘fetish’, always in private, and mostly I felt it was an extension and an expression of a different part of me.

When my wife discovered Kimberley, I had no idea how to explain myself. She just didn’t want to deal with it, instead imagining a gay queen running around in short skirts and big wigs. But using many of your posts, particularly the mythbusters, I was able to get her to at least listen to me and my perspective, that I’m not gay, and was very private. Not that she accepts it, but she currently keeps the ’secret’.

I was also impressed with your courage, not only to open yourself up to the world, but to take the steps you did to ‘out’ yourself.

So, again, on behalf of this reader, congratulations on the past year.

@ Lynn – Thank you, Lynn! :) I know exactly what you mean when it comes to blogs loosing their steam and fading out after a hand full of months. I seriously considered putting this one to rest a few times. I’m glad I did not.

Offering advice and counsel
One of the major driving forces behind starting this up was knowledge of the senseless, continued pain and suffering of people much like ourselves. It literally used to keep me awake at night. It took me a lifetime to understand my own existence like this, and in the end, the whole mind-f*ck of it all was in how society treated me and this topic all my life. My ultimate goal is to change how mainstream society views the transgender spectrum. Remove the lies, misconceptions, and terrible social stigma, and the embarrassment, guilt, pain and suffering of our trans-sisters will end. Of course, I have not yet worked out how to change mainstream society (and likely will not in my useful lifetime), but I can make a difference in the lives of those who find their way to my website and more so to those who reach out to me.

There’s absolutely nothing easy about what I do when it comes to offering advice and insight. It’s a process that takes up a lot of time and can leave me emotionally drained, but it is so very important. As you (and hopefully others) have noticed, I do not play favorites and I’ll tell it like it is, as best I can understand things. This is about helping people understand realities, NOT about taking sides because we have “this” in common. Tough as it is, it is also rewarding, if only on a spiritual level. I spent many years suffering. I can gripe about it, or make use of the knowledge I acquired along the way. The latter is a bit more productive.

Best bits? I think the advice stuff as Petra has said. It’s not ‘back patting’ advice, oftentimes there are hard and necessary truths in there.

What would I change? Good question… umm.. y’know I don’t think there’s much that I would change to be honest. To alter the form of what’s here now, would change the site.

Take care,
Lynn
x

The advice posts you have done up have been my favorites. Your counsel to troubled people has no doubt been of enormous benefit. Well done. This shows your very best, caring qualities. Keep it up.

If there is anything else I would like to see here, it would be happy stories about how it all is going for you. I hope you are able to expand your range, get many new Gabrielle experiences, and find them all to be positive.

Best wishes.

Petra