myCDlife Frequently Asked Questions

 

What is the purpose of this website?
Its main purpose is dispelling the negative clichés and misunderstandings many people have about crossdressers and transgendered people. Not all of the content is of a serious nature though. Fun, humor, and lighthearted material is also plentiful. More information is available in the about page.

How frequently is new content published?
There is no set publishing schedule. This is something I can only do part time and on a limited basis because of my life’s many other responsibilities. Sometimes I’ll publish 2 or 3 new posts a week. Sometimes I can only put out a single new post every other week (or month) or so. See that RSS feed in the upper-right corner? Use it to stay informed about new content if you’d like.

I have a comment, but not about any particular article. How can I get in touch with you?
Private messages can be communicated through this contact page. They do not get published on the site.

I sent you a message but never heard back. Are you ignoring me?
With the exception of spam and messages of hate, I read everything people send me. I live a very busy life and therefore can only maintain and contribute to this on the side, on a limited basis due to other responsibilities. Sometimes I get backed up in my communications and it is not uncommon for it to take several days or even weeks to hear back from me. Not all messages require a response, and I don’t always write back for various reasons. In most cases, if you send me a polite message or just say hi, I’ll get back to you. Be sure to include a VALID e-mail address if you would like to hear back (I’ve lost track of how many bogus and incorrectly typed e-mails people have left). I very much appreciate the messages people send me, but don’t always have the time to respond or remember to. Please do not take it personally if I don’t reply.

I noticed that you often comment back when people leave comments, but you didn’t comment on mine. Did I say something wrong?
Probably not. It only takes a moment to approve a comment, so I often approve them after reading them quickly. Depending on the nature and length of the comment, it may be a while before I can take the time to properly respond. I do not always reply to comments left by others. It’s nothing personal and does not mean you’ve said anything wrong or upset me. I may have forgotten to comment back later if time did not allow when I initially approved it, or simply didn’t have any additional thoughts to offer based on what was shared.

It says that a leaving valid e-mail address is required for making comments. Will that be shared with anyone?
No. Your e-mail address will not be published, shared, or sold to anyone else. You will not be added to any mailing lists or receive any spam as a result of using your e-mail address in comments or personal communications on this site. Sometimes I contact (e-mail) commenters with a personal message, but will not do so more than once should you not respond, or ask that I not make contact with you.

I commented on one of the articles but it never showed up. What happened?
All comments require approval before being published. Your comment may not have been approved yet. Not all comments are approved. The comment moderation rules are available in the link. In very rare instances, comments may get lost when there is a glitch in either your computer, the website server, or one of the many nodes the data travels along in-between. If you think that may be the case, try leaving your comment again.

I read a comment on this site and would like to contact the author of that comment privately rather than leave a public comment. How can I do that?
If you would like to convey a friendly message or inquiry to one of the commenters on this site, please use this contact page to let me know which article and commenter you’d like to contact. Depending on the nature of your comment/inquiry, I will pass along the message to them personally, giving them your contact information. It’s up to them to make contact with you. They may choose not to contact you.

How can I get my blog listed in your blog roll?
I don’t generally take requests to be added to the blog roll. The few blogs/sites that currently appear are because they represent what I feel is a positive and intelligent take on things. It does not mean that I am in full agreement with content on the linked-to sites, only that I feel they convey an overall positive and intelligent message. I have removed sites from my blog roll in the past for various reasons and it has caused hard feelings (unintentionally). For that reason, I am hesitant to add more sites to the blog roll at this time. I appreciate those who have added this site to their own blog roll, but please do NOT do so simply in an effort to get your site listed here. If you link to this site, make sure it is because you want to, and not because you’re trying to get linked back to in return.

I read your blog, will you please check out mine and offer some feedback?
I appreciate visitors to this site and it is my hope that everyone gets something meaningful out of it. Unfortunately, I do not often have the time to spend soaking up all the great content offered on other websites/blogs, let alone offer useful input/feedback about them.

I wrote a “Dear Gabi” letter to you. Why didn’t you respond?
As it states on the Dear Gabi submission page, “Not all submissions will end up getting a published response (or any response). If you are not contacted within one week of submission, there will be no response, period. Please do not take it personally.” Please consult the bulleted criteria on that page for more information about what might and might not get responded to.

How can I be considered for Babe of the Week?
Are you a total babe and positive example of a t-girl? Do you have a strong online presence with photos and an upbeat message? Use this contact page to tell me a little about yourself and why you should be the next Babe of the Week. Be sure to include links to your online photos that must be publicly accessible (not password protected). If you are at all insecure about the possibility not making the cut, then please do not bother asking. If you don’t make Babe of the Week, it’s nothing personal – please do not take it as a put-down or show of disrespect. Fetish dressers and those who post genitalia photos will not be considered.

My question did not appear in this FAQ, how can I ask you directly?
There is more coming in this FAQ, I just haven’t take the time to finish it yet. Please feel free to ask your questions using this contact page.

 

Crossdressing Frequently Asked Questions

NOTE: This section of the FAQ needs some serious updating, expanding and revising. I apologize for the lack of depth currently reflected but please bear with me and I’ll get it all fixed up soon, hopefully. :)

Because crossdressers are as varied as non-crossdressers, offering crystal clear answers to everyone’s questions isn’t really possible. It would be like explaining why pizza tastes better than a hamburger – that opinion differs from person to person. The myCDlife Committee is made up of crossdressers who are similar in personal taste, style, and crossdressing preference. Here are answers to some of the frequently asked questions we’ve heard.

Frequently Asked Questions:

Why do you want to dress like a girl? Why not just be a man?
We dress how we choose to dress. We are being exactly who we are. We’re men who have a strong feminine side. It can be said that we love women so much, that we enjoy dressing and looking like them as well.

Are you gay?
Some crossdressers are gay. Most are not. Just like some non-crossdressers are gay and most are not.

Aren’t crossdressers just a bunch of deviant, perverted freaks?
Some crossdressers are. We are not. It’s probably proportionate to the number of non-crossdressers who are deviant, perverted freaks.

Do you want a sex change?
No one (currently) on The Committee wants a sex change. We enjoy being men who can transform into the appearance of a woman. We like our man-parts just the way they are, as do our wives/girlfriends. Some crossdressers choose to transition and have sex reassignment surgery (SRS). These are typically the women trapped in a man’s body type. Again, crossdressers are as diverse as non-crossdressers and there are far too many variances to mention in this FAQ.

I have a zillion other questions, do you mind?
Not at all. They’ll just have to wait until we have more time to continue this FAQ. In the meantime, why not hit up a few of your friends on XBox Live or enjoy a good peanut butter and jelly sandwich. Maybe even try life on the wild side and see if you can walk in women’s heels as well as we can.