All posts by Gabrielle

I'm a public speaker, writer, mentor, counselor, human rights advocate and proud transgender woman.

How I Came Out to My Wife

March 22, 2009 Gabrielle 29 Comments

Hand-in-Hand

One of the questions I’m often asked by other crossdressers is how did I come out to my wife. I enjoy a very happy marriage and my wife is an active participant in my crossdressing. She helped me learn how to apply makeup, shops for female clothing with me, and is supportive of my need to be myself.

So how did I do it? Why is it that the Fabulous Mrs. H. loves her crossdressing spouse, Gabrielle, when other crossdressers run into giant road blocks with their wives/girlfriends? I wish I could tell other crossdressers that it was how I came out to her, but the fact is how I came out had little to do with her acceptance of me.

Like many crossdressers, I got married without first telling my wife about this aspect of my life. At the time, I was very ashamed of it and feared she would reject me if she knew. The seeds of her acceptance however, were sewn long before we got married. Even so, I still greatly feared rejection from the woman I love more than anything.
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daily life, workplace

For Me? You Shouldn’t Have!

March 20, 2009 Gabrielle

Flowers

I stepped out to buy some flowers for my wife while on break at work today. She’s an amazing woman and I like to bring her flowers from time to time for no other reason other than I love her and to make her smile. Walking back into the office with flowers in my hand always gets the same old, over-used, just-not-funny-anymore joke. Everyone I passed by said pretty much the same thing: “For me? Really, you shouldn’t have!” Seriously, every single co-worker I passed said that same phrase almost word for word. I get this every time I step in the office with flowers in my hand. I always do my polite, fake chuckle back, sometimes playing along. You kind of have to do that. It’s expected, even though the joke, that same old joke, is never funny.
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daily life, humor

Along Came a Spider

March 19, 2009 Gabrielle 2 Comments

spider While exercising early this morning, I found myself the subject of interest to a rather curious little spider. I watched the little critter drop from the ceiling on its personal web-elevator. At first, it just looked like a piece of fuzz slowly dropping down, but fuzz it was not.

I really don’t mind spiders. Of all the little exoskeleton-clad freeloaders lurking in my home, spiders are the least likely to be squished by my powerful bug-mashing thumb. Although I’d rather have a house clear of insects and other little creatures, at least spiders help out by trapping and feasting on some of them.

This particular spider seemed rather curious about me and my exercise routine. So much so, that it decided to drop right down on my right knee while doing my leg-lifts. Come on, little spider – why must you land on my knee while it is moving about like that? Wouldn’t you prefer a more stable landing pad? Could you not have dropped down one foot further to my right? Continue reading to see the cool animation of where the spider landed on me. :)
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crossdressing, mental health

Until Society Has Their Way With Them

March 18, 2009 Gabrielle 8 Comments

I had very troubled teen years. Sure, most teens have their struggles, but I was an emotional wreck who couldn’t fit in socially to save my life and suffered from chronic depression. As a result, my parents sent me to a psychiatrist. It did me good and I leaned a lot about myself. I eventually chose to discontinue therapy after realizing that I was just going to him to complain about my life rather than work through my problems. In more than a decade of therapy, I never told him I was a crossdresser. The whole time, I was in fact in denial about it myself. After all, society frowns heavily on such things.
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food

Happy St. Patrick’s Day 2009!

March 17, 2009 Gabrielle

shamrock shake guy I didn’t wear anything green today, but I did indulge in my annual tradition of Shamrock Shake worship. At least my tongue was green for a while afterword. lol

These things are great, but only once a year. For some reason, after I’ve had one, I really don’t want another one for a long time. They taste really good at first… once you can actually get them to flow up through the straw. You know what I’m talking about, right? They’re very thick and you have to suck so hard to get any in your mouth that the straw collapses and your eyes are pulled back into your head to the point where you can see your own brain. After stirring it up for a while and sucking really, really hard, that cold, green, gooey shamrock goodness tastes so delicious.
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food

Plátanos (Fried Plantains)

March 16, 2009 Gabrielle 4 Comments

platanos frying

I came home from work today to find my lovely wife, the fabulous “Mrs. H.”, starting in on tonight’s dinner. I’m not sure how many people are familiar with the Puerto Rican food plátanos (plantains), aside from most Puerto Rican families, of course. I snapped a few photos of my wife while she was preparing dinner, btw. Continue reading to see what this delicious food looks like when finished and how my wife likes to dress in the kitchen.
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