Before venturing online as Gabrielle for the first time, I mentally prepared myself for the possibility of getting hit on by men or other crossdressers. Being a straight male to female crossdresser, I really don’t have any interest in being with or having intimate relations with another man or even another crossdresser – no matter how beautiful her female appearance is. Regardless, I’m married to a great woman, very happily, and our marriage is a 100% monogamous one.
It didn’t take long before I got hit on for the first time. It happened on my flickr account. The message wasn’t vulgar or anything. A man (not a cd) on flickr found my photos very attractive and expressed interest in “getting to know me better”. A quick look at his profile revealed that he was looking to meet sexy t-girls. It was a little weird that first time getting hit on, but not too bad. Honestly, I took it as a compliment. He found me attractive enough to want to “get to know me better”. Every girl (or t-girl) wants to know she’s attractive.
Even though I clearly spell out in my flickr and facebook profiles that I’m happily married and monogamous, I still get hit on from time to time. I guess they’re either not reading my profile or just don’t care. Either way, I’m ok with it. I appreciate the compliment and boost to my female ego.
A man hit on me today via my (rarely used) facebook account, which prompted this post about the subject. He’s not a crossdresser or even interested in t-girls as far as I could tell. The limited access of his profile revealed that he was interested in women, which I understood to mean he’s straight. He asked to see my pictures (they always do) and blew me a kiss. On facebook, full profiles are only available to “friends”, or at least my profile is set that way. He probably found my avatar image because we have a mutual “friend” or something. I decided to go ahead and send him a link to my flickr photos and also a link to my flickr profile which clearly states exactly who and what I am. I advised him to read my profile before looking at my photos. The rest is up to him.
I honestly don’t care if some guys happen to be lusting over my photos. That’s not why I put them out there, nor are they risqué in nature, but if anyone wants to look at my photos while doing whatever, that’s just fine with me. I just don’t want to know about it.
I know some straight crossdressers who get really freaked when hit on by men or other crossdressers. I think it gives them a homophobic moment or something. Not me. I prefer not to get hit on, but it’s really no big deal when I do. I’m not a homophobe and take no offense at all to being found attractive. I’m rather flattered that some guys/t-girls/crossdressers do find me attractive enough to want to “get to know me better”. It just ain’t gonna happen.
For the record, I don’t mind chatting with guys who find me attractive. So long as the conversation is just friendly and not about “what are you wearing” or “can I see more photos of you” (I really hate that), I’ll pretty much chat with anyone, if only for a few brief minutes. Just don’t get confused about who you’re chatting with. I’m a male to female crossdresser and not seeking romance or “the time of my life”. If you’re looking for “the t-girl of your dreams”, you won’t find her in me. Sorry. But thanks for the compliment.
Tags: crossdressing, dating, internet, social networking, t-girl
By Pythos on Mar 22, 2010 | Reply
I know how you feel Gabby. There is this one gent from Brazil or somewhere like that whom I can find offensive. He is not rude or overtly gross, but….well, he goes a bit far.
I have told him straight out I am a straight guy, I appreciate this nice comments, but I am posting those pics for other T-girls to admire and critique, and for GGs to do that as well as possibly “get to know me”. GGs like an Abby Schuito or some other Gothic princess. LOL
It is just hard for some people to fathom that.
I had to delete a comment this gentleman left on one of my photos, which I felt bad about.
I also have to ask though, do women really like being told what positions a guy would like to “drill her” and so on and so forth (different person who got blocked instantly :)
I don’t mind what people do, I just don’t want to know about it, just Like Gabrielle.
By pythos on May 19, 2010 | Reply
I am curious about the repost here. Did another “creepy person” hit on you?
Oh and for the record, I only ask what others are wearing to see if we have similar tastes, or to get ideas.
And if I see someone in an outfit that looks sexy but slightly uncomfortable I have to ask how it feels to wear. LOL.
By Gabrielle on May 19, 2010 | Reply
Sorry about the confusion, Pythos. No, I haven’t been hit on by another creepy person. lol Actually, I’ve been hit on by several guys since going online, but I’m used to it and don’t take it in a negative way – I usually just ignore it. Just experimenting with different ways to offer a richer discovery experience for visitors. :)
By Jane christine on Nov 2, 2010 | Reply
Hi Gabrielle,I know what you mean when you get hit on,when I am out at bars & clubs I get men asking me for sexual favours, well I am a crossdresser but i am straight, I also get gay girls wanting to take my home , well I must admit I love the attention and I feel great getting all the limelight, but deep down I just want to meet a pleasent lady who will support me in my exciting hobby and I will give this lady 100% love and commitment…. lol jane Christine
By Gabrielle on Nov 14, 2010 | Reply
Thanks for commenting, Jane. :) Sorry to respond so late – I get so busy with life… things slip through the cracks sometimes. Glad to hear you get a lot of compliments when you’re out. Getting hit on may not be desirable, but at least it’s (generally) positive attention, right? :) I’m sure you’ll find that pleasant lady who will give you love, understanding, and plenty of support. Wishing you much luck in finding her… and who knows – maybe she finds you first!
By Natasha on Jan 23, 2012 | Reply
For me I love it if a guy finds me attactive, it means im passable, its even more lovely if the guy “claims” to not be bi or what ever.
I dont consider myself to be bi and Im for sure not gay in “real” life. However when I dress as Natasha I find I am attatcted to guys, not other CD TV TG girls, but just men.
I’d be interested to know if other CD girls have the same feelings as I do. And perhaps even why I feel the way I do when Im Natasha.
I do like to try and totaly transform my looks of course, but also my manner, way of thinking, acting, interests, hobbies, and enjoy doing my best to act towards men as any girl would in social settings.
Maybe its this transforming that lends me to wish, go, that extra step and be with a guy sexuraly.
Any thoughts girls?
By Gabrielle on Jan 23, 2012 | Reply
Thanks for commenting, Natasha. :) What you describe, being straight as a man, but being attracted to men as a tgirl, is something I’ve heard from others before. Technically, it falls under the category of bisexuality, which is defined as “a romantic attraction to both males and females.” It’s been the topic of debate in online crossdressing forums. Some passionately insist that this is not bisexuality, but rather “gender straight” behavior, depending on the gender being expressed (by the transgender) at the time. Regardless of semantics, it’s not that uncommon.
Based on conversations I’ve had with crossdressers who are attracted to men when they’re in female form, there seems to be more than one general psychological process at work. Some crossdressers are attracted to men, as in find men themselves attractive. Other crossdressers express more of an attraction to their own self being touched by a man, rather than to the man himself. Some crossdressers are attracted to, and romantically interested in other crossdressers, but only the feminine side. Some crossdressers, like myself, are only ever romantically interested in genetic women. As I often describe it, we are more like a lipstick lesbian when in female form. There are variations of everything I’ve described, and then some, but those are some of the general categories I’ve picked up on, personally.
All analysis aside, people simply like what they like. So long as there is no deception taking place, or cheating, harm, etc., then it really doesn’t matter which sex someone is attracted to, does it? I’m not sure the “why” matters as long as one can take part in a romantic relationship that is meaningful and rewarding to them and their partner.