You’re a married crossdresser (or living with a significant other), but not out of the closet yet and not quite ready to come out. How can you shave your legs without explaining why? Honestly, you should really just come clean and tell your love interest the truth. That is the best thing to do, although it may not be the easiest. However if you are simply not ready for whatever reason, have no fear. There are ways to have nice, clean, smoothly shaved legs while remaining in the closet and without having to offer the difficult truth as to why.
I started shaving my legs in the spring of 2006. At the time, I was not yet out to my wife, however I did get her approval to shave my legs with the help of a little plan I worked out. You might try something similar with your wife or significant other. With some patience, planning, and convincing acting skills, you’ll soon enjoy having nice, smooth legs.
Like many crossdressers, I got to the point where I just couldn’t take it anymore – I needed to have silky, smooth legs. I was tired of being Sasquatch in a skirt. My legs were rather hairy. To complicate things, my wife happened to love my hairy legs. She thought they were sexy and enjoyed running her fingers through them… which was actually very soothing and enjoyable.
I was up against some pretty difficult odds, but I came up with a good plan. Any guy with hairy legs knows how itchy they can be. Mine were itchy, although not to the point of constant irritation or anything. However, I decided to start behaving as if they were a whole lot itchier.
This plan was a long-term one. I knew that from the start. If you go this route, I suggest you be patient and careful not to over do it.
Each night when my wife and I were going to bed, I made it a point to itch my legs so that she was aware of it. At first, I just itched them for a while as we lay in bed talking or just after turning out the light. After a while, I began throwing in comments about how badly they itched and irritated me sometimes. I came up with stories about having to itch my legs while driving to work and during long meetings at the office, etc.
It was also important to be caught itching my legs here and there. If I was watching TV and heard my wife coming toward the living room, I’d start itching my legs. The point was to get her used to seeing me itch my legs.
It is very important not to take this too far though. Don’t make obvious comments or complain too often. Don’t pretend as if they’re driving you insane. They’re just irritating and annoying – that’s all. Draw attention to it, but not too much attention and not all the time.
After a while, my wife picked up on my itchy legs. She surprised me at one point and said, “Why don’t you try shaving them if they’re bothering you that much.”
This was too good to be true – she actually suggested it to me. I made sure she was not joking and would not be bothered my shaved legs. After all, she rather liked them hairy. She honestly seemed more concerned with how I felt about having shaved legs. Inside I was elated, but I just pretended that it might feel or look weird for a while, and hopefully it would help my constant itching.
It took a few months, but the plan worked beautifully. I could now shave my legs, have a perfect excuse to do so, and remain safely in the closet about the true reason.
It doesn’t stop here though. As the hair starts to grow back, they do become rather itchy (as any real woman will tell you). Perhaps more so at first, until you get used to them being shaved. It’s probably a good idea to hide this fact and try not to let your significant other see you itching your shaved legs. If you shaved them under the guise of itching relief, you need to show that you are indeed feeling relieved and no longer as itchy. A little itching is ok, she’ll understand that. Too much and she might say, “Why not just grow it back if it’s more itchy this way.”
Another important point is that your wife will probably feel your legs against her legs while the two of you are in bed. If you don’t properly maintain a close shave, they’ll get stubbly and start to feel like a bunch of needles up against her legs. She probably won’t like this and may ask you to let the hair grow back or maintain them better. You’ll need to figure out how long you can go between shavings before your legs irritate your wife. Because it takes me at least a half hour to shave my legs fully, I cannot shave them daily. There just isn’t enough time. They also break out if I shave them too often with a bladed razor.
You may consider shaving them with a bladed razor once a week, and then with an electric razor ever other day in between (or whatever optimal increment works best for you and your wife).
I used a similar tactic to get my wife’s approval to shave my chest and stomach (the “happy trail” area). By the time I was shaving my arms and hands, I was already starting to come out to her, so she understood my true reasons to shave.
I hope this works for you. Again, this is kind of a long-term approach, but it worked great for me and may work well for you too. What is another couple of months in the grander scheme of things, anyway?
For the record, my wife, the fabulous Mr.s H., took that photo of my right leg with the razor on it for this write-up. She loves my shaved legs and I keep no more secrets from her.
Good luck, and happy shaving. :)
Tags: crossdressing, legs, shaving
By phylisanne bernstein on Apr 17, 2009 | Reply
when i started to shave my legs i still was in the closet.but when i came out and told my wife that i was a crossdresser i started to shave my legs all the time and now i never put on a pair of stockings without my legs shaved.
By Sarah on May 12, 2009 | Reply
I’m a competitive cyclist, so there’s my excuse. Take up swimming or cycling and you’ve got permission to shave!
By Gabrielle on May 12, 2009 | Reply
Sounds like you’ve got a good excuse AND a great way to keep them looking good at the same time, Sarah! :)
By "Anna" on Jun 7, 2009 | Reply
Legs I’m use to…and you mentioned hands and arms, I figured as much. But I’m very attached to his armpit hair and don’t want it to go…but, don’t want it to hang out when he’s/she’s dressed in a cami…
I wish hair was a magical thing that could be gone and then magically appear. This would be useful to all of human kind, women would just never ask it to come back.
By Gabrielle on Jun 8, 2009 | Reply
I wish hair could come and go magically too, Anna! lol I’ve spoken to my wife about that before. Honestly, neither myself or my wife misses my armpit hair though. It felt weird when I first shaved mine, but I quickly got used to it AND they’re actually less itchy now.
By Erin on Oct 26, 2009 | Reply
Armpit hair is easy as well. The hair actually is a significant part of the underarm odor. If you get rid of it you smell better in general.
Very nice leg picture btw.
By Gabrielle on Oct 26, 2009 | Reply
Thanks for the compliment on my leg photo, Erin. :) I’ve been without armpit hair for some time now and I love it. Deodorant doesn’t get as messy either. Felt weird at first, but now I can’t imaging having armpit hair again.
By Matt on Nov 11, 2009 | Reply
Thanks for the advice going to start project itch ASAP, I’ve been gutted about this one for weeks as the GF likes a man to be a man! :( and i dont like cycling or swimming, ;)
Can’t wait for my legs to look as good as yours.
By Gabrielle on Nov 11, 2009 | Reply
You’re welcome, Matt. :) Just don’t over-do it. Be patient, pace yourself and give it sufficient time. It’s a long-term plan.
About being a man, my wife also loves her man to be a man. When I’m not Gabrielle, I’m all man, shaved legs and all. My body hair does not define my gender, and neither does yours. Just something to keep in mind. :) What I mean is I enjoy the best of both worlds, as does my wife. Mrs. H. loves her man, and she loves her t-girl, too.
Another thing to keep in mind is, being open with your gf. If not today, do you see yourself able to tell her down the line should things get more serious? If you think she’d never be open-minded enough to tell or might reject you if she knew, you had better take that into serious consideration should the two of you start talking marriage. Just a little friendly unsolicited advice. :)
Good luck with “project itch”. :)
By Krissy Kox on Nov 25, 2009 | Reply
I just took all the hair off my body and told my wife that I like the look. Most male models are smooth so she thought that was ok. Now I put nail polish on my toe nails (silver) and she doesn’t mind that either. I just keep adding little feminine touches to myself.
By Frankie on Apr 2, 2010 | Reply
Had this problem with my male room-mate who I’m not out to. I just told him it feels good.
By Dave on Aug 28, 2010 | Reply
I wanted to shave my legs for years but didn,t know what to say to other half. I became desperate for that smooth feel. I said to her one day, ‘I’m gonna shave all my body hair off!’ She laughed like a drain and gave me an odd look. I shaved everything off, it was fantastic, it felt outrageously good! Once I started I couldn’t stop, I haven’t had that much pleasure for a long time. We went to the beach the next day and she didn’t even notice! When I pointed it out to her she looked at me in disbelief. I kept it up and it is regarded as the norm now so no probs. It does feel good though!! I recommend it, take courage, it’s your body. We shave our faces don’t we??
By Gabrielle on Aug 29, 2010 | Reply
Thanks for sharing your shaving story, Dave, and a belated welcome to the smoother side. :) I’m glad your other half approves. Interesting (and good) that she didn’t even notice at first. No one noticed when I started shaving my body, other than my wife who knew before hand. There are many who fear their doctor noticing, and THAT is why they won’t take the plunge. Well, doctors/nurses do tend to notice, but get this – THEY DON’T CARE! lol It’s a total NON-issue to doctors and people in the health care profession.
It’s odd – the “socially accepted” shaving zones. In Biblical times, it was taboo for a man to shave his face. In some parts of the world, it still is. Today, men can shave their face, but it’s “odd” if they shave other parts of the body UNLESS they’re a body builder or a few other types of professional athlete. Then all of a sudden it’s “ok” (socially acceptable) to shave the body. Who made up these social body-hair rules for men, anyway? It doesn’t matter to me. I happily break those “rules” and enjoy a better quality of life for it. It’s really too bad – how there are so many people out there still afraid to do TO THEIR OWN BODY that which might make them happy, out of fear of social rejection (which is usually nothing more than a quickly forgotten joke or two at worst).