Welcome to the “Dear Gabi” Advice Column.

If you have crossdressing questions and need guidance, I’m here to help. The submission form is below, but I ask that you finish reading before submitting a question.

Crossdressing is a topic of great mystery to most people, including many crossdressers themselves. Schools teach reading, writing, math, science, history and physical education (give or take a subject), but little or nothing is taught about the transgender spectrum.

It’s important to understand is that crossdressing is not a mental illness or just a phase that people go through. With few exceptions, crossdressers are born and remain this way for life. On the whole, most crossdressers are regular guys with families, social lives, personal interests, and work for a living (or attend school) just anyone else. The only real difference is a strong feminine side which is expressed through crossdressing. I encourage you to read the crossdressing myths and existing Dear Gabi articles. Many of your questions may already have been answered in these informative articles.

If you are the loved one of a crossdresser or perhaps a confused crossdresser yourself seeking answers, I’m happy to say you’ve found an excellent source of information. Crossdressing is a topic I know and understand very well. Most of my life has been spent trying to figure it out and analyze exactly what it all means. It’s been a long road to inner-peace and self-acceptance, but I made it and you can too. I don’t claim to be an all-knowing expert (there is no such thing anyway), but my knowledge on the topic is extensive and my writing speaks for itself.

Please review the following before submitting a question:

• Please present your question(s) clearly and be sure to fill in all of the fields below. You may use an alias or false name if you prefer, but your valid e-mail address is required for a response to be considered. Your name will be published (as entered). Your e-mail will not be published.
• I do not provide fashion advice or offer crossdressing-friendly places to shop. My focus is on the psychology and mental health aspects of being a crossdresser. Helping crossdressers and their loved ones better understand things is my goal.
• I speak from the mind, more than from the heart. In other words, I offer insight and advice based on my wisdom and knowledge and tell it like it is, which may not be consistent with how you want it to be.
• If you’re seeking guaranteed, step-by-step, quick-fix solutions to your questions/problems, you may be very disappointed in anything I (or anyone else) can offer.
• Not all submissions will end up getting a published response (or any response). If you are not contacted within one week of submission, there will be no response, period. Please do not take it personally. You might try asking your question in a crossdressing message forum if you don’t hear back from me but still feel that you need some kind of feedback. (See links to the right under “CD Community”)
• I’m not a licensed therapist and any advice I offer should be taken as my personal opinion. Truth be told, that is all anyone can offer, unless they can read minds or posses some kind of (real) psychic insight into the future. If you or someone you know is having trouble with severe depression and/or displaying suicidal tendencies, please seek professional psychiatric help immediately.

NOTE: All threats are taken seriously and are forwarded to the authorities.

Please fill in all fields of the submission form: